I have a wish for all the women photographers out there…. I wish that you all would consider this – Value Your Time. In 2015, I want to help you to get back on track with your life – balance of work and family and self – I regret not listening to others all those years ago…….
Everyone will tell you this, but for all those parents with young children – enjoy! Enjoy every moment. Before you know it, you will be feeling these same things that I am feeling now….
Brutal Honesty: It’s frustrating when I see so many, women especially, getting into photography and starting businesses with no business education or prior experience in business management, having no idea what they are in for, charging super cheap prices that are not sustainable for a business, and working themselves ragged to the point where their home life starts to suffer – for what result really? Most will deny their marriage or children or other areas are suffering, since they are following their passion, but I challenge you to reevaluate what exactly your passion is. I’m not saying don’t do something you love – you need to have your own identity besides for mom, wife, etc., but make sure that you are prioritizing what truly is most important to you before it’s too late, and with any moment away from what is most important to you, you are being well compensated for this very very valuable time.
There’s something to be said about… hindsight.
I’VE BEEN THERE. I understand it. I understand YOU. You are trying to be superwoman. You want to do it all and be it all. I’m here to tell you. You can’t do it all. If you try, some aspect of your life will suffer. I have a motto: “Work smarter, not harder” and you may see references to it on my Instagram or in my Honest Articles on my Business Site. There is a reason behind that.
I blinked. And this happened……
This little boy…….
Just graduated from high school….. I just blinked. I remember so clearly the day he was released from the NICU at the hospital, wondering what am I going to do with this screaming bundle?
Soon Barrett was running around the house, speaking in words that none of us knew…. he sounded like an old drunk man babbling and slurring….
Then he started Kindergarten… he was so shy…. but played his heart out in football….
Pretty soon, he was doing crazy things like jumping off roofs and videoing his boxing with his friends on a trampoline – you know, typical boy stuff that leaves you cringing….
Dating followed….along with independent decision making without his parents’ input (eek!)….. and before we knew it…..
High School Graduation….. Wow. I’m 38 years old and my firstborn is 18. How did this happen so quickly? I blinked.
and a flashback……..
If you have found yourself frustrated at missing time with your loved ones, you can change things. I will continue to share the changes I made in my Honest Articles that have helped myself and my family completely, but you can just take a step back, evaluate everything, and make very important decisions for yourself and for your family.
I’ve found now to enjoy every current moment I can with my teens. Every day after work, I make it a point to go into their rooms and try to recap whatever is going on in their life that day…. Life is still incredibly busy, but I make every single decision about my business based on what will benefit my family and benefit our relationships. It has definitely been eye opening to my “hindsight” having my firstborn graduate from high school, and I know many can relate.
I’m very excited for Barrett to see what he is going to do with his life now that he has been released from the confines of “childhood”. He’s an ISTJ personality (Myers Briggs for those who don’t know what that means), a very determined and responsible young man who is currently in college following the path to to a Computer Science and Cyber Security degree.